I love this scene in your book. Sitting with one's pain... very uncomfortable. I went through a heart-breaking divorce in my mid 20's. Mistakes were made by both of us. We were young and did not have the benefit of wisdom, of patience, of seeing beyond our immediate whims and wishes. After the initial separation, I sought out counseling which helped me to hold a mirror up to myself to evaluate my actions and the beliefs I held that led to them. My counselor guided me to address my feelings of inadequacy that stemmed from childhood. Not only did I have to understand the root of my feelings, but what led to them. I had to learn how to love myself. Only then could I make changes in my attitude and behavior and begin to move forward. This process took nearly 6 years. There was a great deal of journal writing and time spent alone, but when I met my present husband, I was ready for a real relationship and not a fairy tale. The irony is that my marriage continues to exceed my expectations. I look at my first marriage and its failure as a blessing now. It changed me in profound ways.
Wow, Nevie. I didn’t know any of this. Thank you for sharing it and being so vulnerable. I hope others are able to read it and be encouraged by it. Again, thank you so much for being such an instrumental part of And So By Fire. It is better because of you.
I love this scene in your book. Sitting with one's pain... very uncomfortable. I went through a heart-breaking divorce in my mid 20's. Mistakes were made by both of us. We were young and did not have the benefit of wisdom, of patience, of seeing beyond our immediate whims and wishes. After the initial separation, I sought out counseling which helped me to hold a mirror up to myself to evaluate my actions and the beliefs I held that led to them. My counselor guided me to address my feelings of inadequacy that stemmed from childhood. Not only did I have to understand the root of my feelings, but what led to them. I had to learn how to love myself. Only then could I make changes in my attitude and behavior and begin to move forward. This process took nearly 6 years. There was a great deal of journal writing and time spent alone, but when I met my present husband, I was ready for a real relationship and not a fairy tale. The irony is that my marriage continues to exceed my expectations. I look at my first marriage and its failure as a blessing now. It changed me in profound ways.
Wow, Nevie. I didn’t know any of this. Thank you for sharing it and being so vulnerable. I hope others are able to read it and be encouraged by it. Again, thank you so much for being such an instrumental part of And So By Fire. It is better because of you.